Lately, Norah has been… learning boundaries. She is pushing (and surpassing) limits in what I assume is a normal process of life. This also means she has learned as much about apologizing as a 3 year old can. I believe it is important that she doesn’t simply just say sorry. I want her to acknowledge whatever it is that she is saying sorry about. I don’t want her to mutter a meaningless, “Sorry…” and be on her merry way.
Typically I ask her to apologize by saying something like, “I’m sorry I wasn’t listening to directions”.
Recently she’s had to apologize when we weren’t around though. Most recently she had had a pretty tough day with her teacher and I asked her to apologize the next morning. She did so when I wasn’t around and later her teacher came to me to share what she said.
Apparently it went like this… “Ms. Teacher, I’m sorry for not acting like myself.”
My 3 year old is amazing.
She’s always teaching me things, but gosh how great was her statement! Her statement did not label her as anything. She is a good kid, she is a good listener, she is kind and gentle and sweet hearted. Those things are part of who she is. She simply had a moment of three-ness and was having a bad day (don’t we all). Her momentary bad choices do not define her. Her moment of not listening doesn’t make her a bad listener – it just means she had a moment of not listening.
She simply, wasn’t acting like herself.